WAW Hired a Divorce Coach (Cont11.)

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ScottB,

It was quick, 15 minutes. I felt a little cold and distant.

Hopefully another milestone in the process of bring you more detachment and closure.

There was a moment I debated being snarky to throw shade at her, but what’s the point.

I've been tempted at times as well, but have held back - it's fun to fantasize in our heads in the moment, but likely won't make you fear better afterwards. Best to take the high road.

She began to cry at the end and getting on the call it looked like she had been crying. I guess her grieving also makes sense, and I recognize how different the two of us are - it’s just hard for me to comprehend crying during the divorce proceeding that I fought for and wanted.

It just goes to show sometimes they're spinning as well. It's easy for us LBS to know our struggles and see them as happy and sure of their decision, but often they're struggling internally just as much. I remember my ExW always looked good and happy and when I said "how is easy for you" she said something like you have no idea how I cry in the car and I also happened across a social media board with quotes full of how people were going to perceive her and how she has to heal...etc. Sometimes the happy/confident façade is just that.

It is nice that it’s starting to feel like spring. Love the longer days. Hope to snowboard one more time or two and then go n to biking and kayaking.

Agreed! Can't wait for Spring and sun and more outside activities. Keep up the GAL...

How are your kids doing with it all?