MLC 100% with on 1-3. I can't agree with 4 though. Reminding myself that I was "fired as a wife" really helped me accept what was going on. I've seen it help a lot of newbies conceptualize what was happening for the exact reason Steve said, thinking "I want a divorce" means the LBS should become super spouse and then they'll love me again. Is it an off putting phrase? Absolutely! But that ties into your second point. It may hurt to hear it but it needs to be said. And the sooner someone can see their MR for what it is at that moment the better off they are.
