Thanks D, not harsh at all, I know I need all the help I can get right now. I value and trust everyones info and input on this cuz , yes I know I am thinking with too much emotion right now. I am trying to be strong, but all I see is the destruction of our dreams together. Makes me sad and furious at the same time. Ugh, he is such a idiot right now.
We do not have a agreed value of the house, had a rough estimate done 2 years ago for 389 but H put it down as 450. With the current market it is somewhere in that window.
My jewlery is all fake and maybe worth like 300 bucks. His collection, I have no idea, my guess 20 to 50 grand. Everything in the house, maybe 8 to 10 grand. Everything is like 10 to 15 years old, I don't have any Monet's hanging on the walls...lol He says he doesn't want anything from the house. So great I get to deal with all the sh!t he doesn't want. Like the 50 bowling balls in the basement, thanks a$$hole..
If he keeps me on his insurance that would be great, that is one of my concerns right now. I have that in my notes...
I also thought alimony was based on gross, not net and have that in my notes for my ATTY. H had said to me a few months back that he would only be paying alimony to me for 4 years, my ATTY laughed when I told him that. My ATTY thinks more like 8 to 10 years. A lump some would be over a million, there is no way he could come up with that money. I am not trying to sound greedy, but this was the life that we both promised each other and worked for.
Also H has a base pay, but most of his income comes from his monthly bonus. He takes his deferred comp (35%) out of his bonus checks.(He makes too much money for a 401k hence the deferred comp) So the 35% comes out then taxes. This would not be fair to me... that was my first thought when I read the net income part. Plus he could raise his deferred comp to 100%,(there is no limit to how much he can put into it) and I would get nothing.
Yes, I need to talk with my ATTY and will call him this week. My brother is pretty good with all of this and I have sent him a copy of the letter too.
I also have in my notes for ATTY, social security, life insurance on H, and the joint credit card that he put his $7500 retainer on, and my medical bills from my gallblader issue.
Also he should be paying me going back to December, he left on the 2nd.
