Last week on Monday suddenly got a message from EXH that he changed his return flight from Tuesday to Thursday and that he was coming to the house as from this Monday (tomorrow) and stay until Friday since we are away on holiday. (me and the kids are away for a mid-week). During that week he will pack his stuff and take it to the rental house which he rented short term.
I told him briefly that this was OK but we agreed to have no contact unless business so that I assumed he had a solution to stay somewhere between the Thursday of his arrival and this Monday. He actually wanted to come back home and live again under one roof for those days... When I told him this was not what we agreed before he left and that this was not possible he of course replied with anger so I didn't answer anymore.
Since then complete silence.
As you know EXH had very limited contact with his relatives for years now and he was very angry towards his M. Yesterday my SIL called to ask me what is going on with him. I told her I didn't know since I went NC with him. She told me he started contacting everybody again (except for his Father) and even invited his Mother to a restaurant and slept at her house yesterday evening.
She told me he is acting as if nothing happened and she couldn't understand why he was going to his M all of a sudden.
Everybody in the family knows what is going on with EXH and they all know he is far off the rails. Only MIL still tries to live up to his crazy behavior.
Sometimes I feel like I'm living in a loop. This has happened exactely one year ago as well. I know I shouldn't bother anymore, he is not my problem anymore but somehow this still affects me big time. I know it won't last long but still, after 3 years I would think this would be totally over by now.
The thing is I can't help it making up stories about why he is going to his M again whilst just 3 weeks ago he told me he doesn't want to see her anymore. He only uses his M when he wants the whole family to know something about him. So he simply tells her because he knows she will tell it to the family. (she is known as the scandalmonger of the family, she can't keep secrets at all, everything she knows she will bring out to other people)
The story in my head is now that he is back together with OW2 and he will bring her over to our home country and live with her here and that what is what he wanted to tell his M so she could tell the whole family.
They are all seeing each other this afternoon, (not ex. H) so she told me she will hear the story from MIL then and she would contact me afterwards. I really want to know as otherwise it will keep me anxious since I don't know the truth at the moment.
Yes, I know it is not in my control and he can do whatever he wants but that doesn't mean the pain is not there anymore...
