It will be ok. I’m glad Mom and Dad are dropping by.
Just breathe.
A few things to consider.
Originally Posted by Stella20
I thought I was getting better, but the pain and hurt has just flooded me. Like I am back to day 1.
You are getting better. All this emotion and pain comes raging back as denial melts away. Remember, grief is not linear.
Originally Posted by Stella20
How can any human being inflict this much pain onto another?
My friend, this pain does not come from H. It comes from yourself.
H’s deed is long done. His power nearly spent. You are reinforcing your emotions. All perfectly normal by the way. It hurts terribly as one let’s go the connection. A horrible withdrawal.
You are withdrawing from the drug that is H. The loss of romantic love is reported as worse as heroin addiction withdrawal. Your mind is screaming for those endorphins that once swam around in plentiful numbers.
Focus on you. No contact. The shortest way through the boggy mire is a direct heading. It’s a slog, no doubt about that. Put pictures away. A firm 24-48 hour rule. Block him, except for one method like email. Check this email only once every 2 days at 6:00 pm, or whatever time you wish. A time that you scheduled to purposefully stir your emotions.
This is programming your subconscious and your heart. Focus on you.
Detachment will bring peace. And indifference will bring much calm.
Today
Just breathe.
Be in the moment.
It is only temporary. Fleeting in fact.
Breathe.
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
