I basically just need to give her the divorce and move on with my life at this point. If she comes back, great. My guess is she wont, but I can't let my life be contingent on what she does or doesn't do.
If you are ready for it I would phrase it like this: You should divorce her. Personally in my sitch I am very glad I was the one to hand her the papers, not the other way around. Though a word of caution, make sure that it doesn't impact your bargaining power. My understanding is that in some cases/countries it can impact you position negatively if you are the one to (legally) initiate the process. Consult a lawyer! Don't do all the work and do NOT just agree to her terms.
Most of us here have gone trough it, we can guide you along the way if you want/need.
She has already sent me paperwork to file jointly with the court (last year), I believe she just wants to do everything pro se. However, I will still consult an attorney. Really she has said she doesn't "want anything". That could all change but I definitely won't be playing her game from here on out.
Originally Posted by Ready2Change
Originally Posted by Joshua
Is there anything in Divorce Busting that isn't in The Divorce Remedy?
It has been awhile since I read both books, but I believe DR covers most of the concepts, but sets expectations more realistically.
Seems like that would be the case, as DR is newer than DB
The best thing I did in my situation, when my WW was insisting we could get a quickie online D, was consult with an attorney. It never hurts to say least do a consultation. If nothing else it will help with what to expect to go through the divorce.
I hope you're right and she really wants nothing. I've seen too many people go through it where the walk away was insisting they wanted nothing and wanted it to be amicable. Only later to be clobbered over the head after they'd been lulled to sleep. Stay wary, know your rights, and protect yourself.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
