She has already sent me paperwork to file jointly with the court (last year), I believe she just wants to do everything pro se. However, I will still consult an attorney. Really she has said she doesn't "want anything". That could all change but I definitely won't be playing her game from here on out.
Uhhhhh...what game is/was she playing? I mean she's been pretty clear from the get go she doesn't want to be married to you. She's done zero to string you along. And has done even less to try to mess with your money. Which is next to never the case for anybody here who's been divorced or is going through one.
I'd consult an attorney to put your mind at ease and if you think it's best put a retainer down, just in case. But if she truly doesn't want anything, and would like to do this pro se, jointly, quickly and painlessly as possible, I'd follow through on that as long as you possibly can. Hopefully through fruition.
I'm going to completely contradict Munim, because the way he put it is frankly insane. If she asks for nothing, you have ZERO reason to fight for anything. Agree to her terms if they are agreeable. It's honestly that simple if you let it be. The fight here is what will give you the most peace? If she's trying to take property that is technically yours but you don't care if she takes it or not, you let her have it. If she tries taking money that would be detrimental to your well being you fight.
Do not, and I can't emphasize that enough, please, please, don't get in your chest over this stuff and make something contentious that isn't to "win." You will not win. You will lose. And maybe that loss is only monetary, but trust me that's still a loss. The second you unnecessarily start involving attorneys you might as well just set your paychecks on fire, or try flushing your cash down the toilet. Divorce is an incredibly expensive process. You are billed per 1/10 of an hour. Every phone call, email, filing, meeting, hearing, all of it billed down to 6 min increments of their time. And if you do make things contentious just because you can and force her into a position where she needs to get an attorney she can in return put you in a position to have to pay for her attorney fees as well. It's in your best interest to do what you can to keep your feelings out of the D. It's in your best interest to look at it exactly for what it is, a legal proceeding separating a business partnership. Take the easiest, cheapest route to move on with your life.
