Some say they don't want help and mean that. Usually that's the booze talking. Some say they don't want help, but really do - they just don't know how to stop, cannot imagine life without booze.

I've been involved in 12 step programs since I was 22 years old. I've seen and heard a lot. There is hope, but the person has to hit bottom and find their own way. No one can do it for them. Covid has caused an exponential uptake in active addiction of all kinds. People with multiple years in recovery have fallen off the wagon and in some cases died.

Yet, there is hope for recovery. As long as the person is alive, there is always hope. The key is understanding that you're powerless over their addiction be it to alcohol, sex, drugs, whatever. Focus on yourself. Pray for the person. Set boundaries for yourself. Stick to them as best you can. Move forward. Heal. Live your life. They are on a separate journey, and that is ok. No one knows the future, or what it holds for anyone. Focusing on yourself gives you back your personal power.

This is not easy, but you can do it, Stella. This is why I believe programs like Alanon are crucial for the family members affected by this disease. Check out online meetings as well.

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M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver