Stella my exw's brother was/is an alcoholic. Spent time in jail for 3 dui's. If you were to meet him you would think he was a great guy. 95% of people on this planet could get 1 dui. To get 4 means you make really bad decisions and just don't give a flip.
I'd like to re-frame this ^^ LH --- It's not that an alcoholic just doesn't give a flip. It's that the alcoholic has absolutely no control once they put booze in their system. It's not a moral issue. This is an illness, like MS, Cancer, Diabetes. The booze controls everything. They simply cannot stop themselves. It's terrifying to see someone you love in the grip of this disease.
The alcoholic needs FIERCE compassion - compassion for the hell they are living, FIERCE meaning that compassion holds a FIRM boundary so the damage they inflict on themselves doesn't destroy you, the person who loves them.
BOUNDARIES. They are for you. Stella.
Interesting that about two years before BD his Gma passed.
Last edited by bttrfly; 02/25/2203:07 PM.
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
