Originally Posted by Stella20
"I have always done everything for everyone else. (when I asked what, no answer)
Stella have you read the validation threads? The proper response is "I understand you feel that way"
Originally Posted by Stella20
When was the last time you did something special for me?
Did you do special things for him?
Originally Posted by Stella20
I have been unhappy for 2 years.
He may not be lying here. He just doesn't realize you are not responsible for his unhappiness.
Originally Posted by Stella20
What accumulated over ther years?
RESENTMENT. It's the number one thing that lands people here.
Originally Posted by Stella20
He never mentioned one word to me about not being happy.
He probably did just not in a direct way. Meaning: STELLA I AM NOT HAPPY
Originally Posted by Stella20
I am not a mind reader. Said somethings should be unspoken, when I asked what he couldn't answer. WTF????????????
He thinks since you were together for 20 years you should know what makes him happy.
Originally Posted by Stella20
You don't blow up your marriage and emotionally murder your wife without talking to her.
My guess is your STBXH is an avoidant and the easier thing for him to do is to replace you. Very common theme here.