FWIW… I did go on a date with a guy that seemed a bit too enthusiastic before meeting him and did gave him the benefit of the doubt and he is the one guy I’ve met that I had to block because he wasn’t taking “no thanks” for an answer. It is fine to be enthusiastic to a point…but over the top enthusiasm when you’ve exchanged two texts is, IMO, a big red flag. It came across as too desperate and undiscerning. If he had just engaged in a conversation about the show we both like, it would have been fine… and the first part of his message was that. It’s when he started talking about watching it together at my place (as if that had already been agreed to) and be being sent to him from God that he lost me. That is waaaayyyy past enthusiastic and entering into delusional territory (not about believing in God but saying that he had sent me to him). The other thing that was kind of weird but not a deal breaker is that he kept capitalizing random words in his texts. I had chalked it up as quirky but it almost seemed like he was yelling different words…lol. It was just weird.
I think there is a fine balance to maintain in your texts with someone before you meet them. Interested but not too interested. Don’t talk like you are going to be doing all these things in the future without having established a mutual interest in person. In my mind, the first few communications are solely to determine if you have enough interest in each other to actually meet. Once you meet, you establish if there is an in-person attraction and then if you have enough of an attraction, you make plans for an actual date where you get to know each other a bit more and reassess if there should be a third date…and so on… To me, that’s a normal progression and when someone wants to skip all the steps and start talking like they’ve found their match, it makes me, and probably most people, want to run screaming.
Also BL… I think detecting “crazy” is even more important for women when it comes to OLD. The plot from “Fatal Attraction” aside… as a woman, paying attention to our intuition when it comes to weeding out the crazies, could be a matter of life and death so I don’t try to second guess it too much…especially when it starts screaming at me after two texts. No need to give the other person the benefit of the doubt after that brief interaction. I mean….what if you met this person at a bar and you said “hi” and he said “hi” and then asked you what your favourite tv show was. You reply with the name of a show and he all of a sudden says… “Oh….I love that show too. I don’t have cable though so we’ll have to watch it at your place and I’ll bring the popcorn. OMG… I am soooooooo excited. I knew God would send you to me one day.” And then tried to kiss you (which is kinda what a kissing emoji implies). Uhhhh… pretty sure that would be the end of that. Anyway…no regrets. I am 100% sure I dodged a big bullet there.
