Living in the Light VI

[BL42]

Hi BL42, doesn't your CREEPY meter go off when you read that?! I've NEXTed women for less.

Yes, agreed. That's why I prefaced my comment with "I totally agree his comment comes off as too strong too soon and I'd never say something like that before even meeting someone..."

Many dating/attraction resources I've read post-D talk about guys being mysterious with their intentions and not over pursuing or getting attached too quickly

They're both on a dating site--their intentions are hardly mysterious. Who or what is he getting "attached too quickly" to, when he knows next to nothing about Deja Vu but what's on her profile?

I wasn't talking about this guy specifically, but the concept in general that a guy's direct enthusiasm or over interest can often be counter productive and actually turn the woman off. You'd think one would want someone excited and interested but are more often attracted to those whose interest is vague or veiled. Also, guys would ramp up the attachment level can make the woman back away. Seems a bit counter intuitive at first, but is a key concept on DB'ing here on the board and other dating/attraction resources out there.