So I totally agree his comment comes off as too strong too soon and I'd never say something like that before even meeting someone, but also continue to be intrigued by how a guy's enthusiasm can turn a woman off. You'd think interest and excitement would be a good thing.
Hi BL42, doesn't your CREEPY meter go off when you read that?! I've NEXTed women for less.
Imagine you're looking at Game of Thrones books at Barnes and Noble and a lady is looking at you (she'd know about as much about you as this fellow did about DV). You say "Hi!" She gives you a 3-minute lecture on the Lannisters, says once you and her are in a relationship she'd have to watch at your place, winks, then thanks God for helping her meet the right guy?!
I could think of a gazillion openings that would work better to begin a conversation, from a simple comment and question about the show, to adding a compliment about your attire. Normal people behaviors.
Originally Posted by BL42
Many dating/attraction resources I've read post-D talk about guys being mysterious with their intentions and not over pursuing or getting attached too quickly
They're both on a dating site--their intentions are hardly mysterious. Who or what is he getting "attached too quickly" to, when he knows next to nothing about Deja Vu but what's on her profile?
Originally Posted by Bl42
I mean is this guy really a stalker, or might he just be excited at the prospect of dating you (and is that really such a bad thing)?
I'm thinking of the last lady that I NEXT'd for this. I don't know if she was a stalker--or something else was wrong with her? Once I decided she was neither good partner nor friend material I had little interest in finding out.
