You're doing well El. Don't beat yourself up for not being "there" yet. IT's a process and as Eagle said, the most important thing is that you are moving through it. Brighter days are ahead my friend. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other and when you do look behind you, make sure you continue to see things (and your H) as they were and not how you would have liked them to be. (((HUGS)))