I tried to tell you a long time ago you weren’t plan b. More like plan G. The LBS being plan b is the biggest myth on the board.
OW was NEVER my competition.
OW was a symptom of a problem in my M.
My only competition is myself. Therefore it doesn't phase me that my XH isn't jumping up and down choosing me!!!! He has his own battles to face. I accept who and where he is right now.
I'm at peace. I understand the 3 reasons D happens. I have empathy for the pain my XH was feeling when he felt the need to leave our M, for the hopelessness that that he felt. I know he is not as happy as he wants everyone to believe he is... and I have empathy for that too.
Sometimes late at night he asks the hard questions. Why wasn't he enough? What changed? Could I really be different with him?
Sometimes I will answer them, but sometimes I ignore because I'm not always convinced he wants the answer.
Sometimes it anger - I was given warnings and options and choose what I choose because it was all about me. ((shrug))
I listen. I validate. I can see why you would feel that way. I understand why you would think that way.
And, then I keep living my life.
If XH wants to spend time with me and it can be a positive experience, why not? I understand the process in which people fall in love... fall out of love and can fall back in love.
I'm not putting anything on hold. If I meet someone else before my XH has a come to Jesus moment... that's on him.
