In my D, I am consulting with a financial consultant in order to help establish my financial goals as well as suggestions on how to meet them with the D. For example, if I would be better off with more cash, versus investments, I should get alimony or a lump sum instead, what value some of the money would have if other considerations are considered (withdrawal fees, etc). Stuff that is just way over my head as I’ve never been the one to manage our money. The consultants will be paid a small fee for this part, then I will work with them to help manage my financials as well after this step.

My lawyer asked me to do this, as well as I took a course by Michelle Smith that also helps divorced woman learn how to manage their own financial life post D. I highly recommend it. Maybe these ideas might help you to feel less confused about what is the best scenario for you and your situation?

The Lawyers do know a lot, but the financial folks know more. They deal with these assets a lot deeper than lawyers do. So they compliment each other.

((Stella)) You are doing great. Hang in there.

El

Me 52, H 56
T10 M7, 2nd MR for both
2 Step Sons (19 and 21)
BD: Fall 2020
D finalized: July 2022
XH Married AP soon after D day.