Any ideas on how to convince S17 it would be a good thing for him to go?
I can only share what my research yielded when my son was that age: you can't.
I have a dear, close friend who is a psychologist, phd and all ... asked a second psychologist. asked a counselor. asked his guidance counselor. i think I got 5 different opinions, all saying that forcing counseling would only delay him finally getting help when he needed it later. So, I didn't. You have something that I didn't: two brothers willing to go. My hope and sense is that the younger ones will pave the way - learn some tricks and the older one, if observant, will benefit.
I strongly suggest telling your older son that if he ever changes his mind, you want him to know that resource is ALWAYS available to him and leave it at that. Continue to model the kind of behaviour you want them to learn.
xoxoxo
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
