L- wouldnt going through with the D cause him fear of losing me Forever??? He knows I don't want this D, I have told him so. I will not stop it, he would have to stop it. If he chooses to stop it, I would agree if... he moved to his own place and cut contact with OW, to start. I am not going to ask him again, he knows where I stand, the ball is in his court.
I know this is only 9 months in, but at what point do the see everything they are losing? Do they ever see it. H was a smart man, I have to believe that some part of him sees the insanity of his actions. (wishful thinking)
Kml- no current life insurance policies. Even with taking off half of the house from the 401k, he would still owe me some money form 401k. Plus alimony, he makes 5 to 6 times what I was making when I was working. There is no way I would even come close to making 25% of what he is currently making. I plan to get a job as soon as my Atty gives me the go ahead, but it will be just for health insurance. Not looking to get back into a career job if I don't have to.
you can also ask to have him cover your health insurance as part of the divorce agreement.
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
