Traveler, It is an attempt to secure myself finacially, due to H's poor choices and lifestyle. I can't control him, this is for my piece of mind and securty
Andrew, I did alot of research on A's before leading to MLC, so yes its about the thrill, the secrecy, the sneaking around and getting away with it. But this A is not a secret anymore and has been publicly displayed now for 3 months. Everyone knows, they are not hiding anything.
Side thought, Since H moved out he never asked for a D, I filed. After 2 weeks gone he said that he could not try because his heart would not be in it 100%. (thats when I decided to file, I had lost hope and was angry) Since then the few times we have spoken about us, he just says, "How would we go back" . I have told him that we can not go back but we can go forward. He doesn't get angry when we talk he just tells me he will think about it. That was when he came to shovel a few weeks ago. I also asked him about getting his own place, but he said it was too cold to move right now..really!!
His actions, retained a lawyer and still living with OW, I answered my own questions did I?
