My understanding Eagle is that you and exh agreed NC between each other, right?

My previous response was predicated on that belief and that you believe he's now contacting your children to try to get a rise out of you.

Agree 100% with G, it's time for the boys to start fostering their own relationship with their Dad. Since he's abusive, definitely guide them through it, but you may also want to set up counseling for them so that a neutral third party can also help guide them. The boys need to know that they have the power to decide what and how much contact they have with their father. 14 is a little young, but the older son at 17 is fast approaching an age where he will realize he has that power and start using it. The trick is teaching them to use it wisely, not vindictively, as kids sometimes do when they're first learning about how to set boundaries with toxic people.

That's another reason to get a counselor involved.

Last edited by bttrfly; 02/19/22 12:34 PM.
M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver