If he is reaching out to your children with a sincere interest on how they are doing and asking about their grades this is what you want. This is 100 percent what he should be doing. As long as he is not attacking them with their responses then you should stay out of it. I can’t tell you how many women I have gone out on dates with who’s ex’s don’t even know what schools their kids go to or grades they are in.
To give you a bit of background of the past weeks. 2 weeks ago MLC H lashed out to S17 that he could not be his son with the grades he currently has. 1.5 weeks ago MLC H lashed out to S14 because of 1 bad test he made. He afterwards went upstairs, asked S17 and twin brother S14 to come out of their room and lashed out to all 3 of them that they couldn't be his sons with such grades and he even showed them the middle finger with both hands. So no, his interest is definitely not sincere, it is out of guilt.
I could not imagine my F saying to me I'm not his child because....these are very harsh words to say to a kid.
The fact he told them he doesn't want to know anything anymore about their education, exactely 1 week ago, and now asks how they are doing shows how he is cycling again.
And I really don't say this in a bitter tone, absolutely not. I feel for him but I also want to protect my children from being hurt again.
They prefer not to hear about him for now but they also don't want to not send a reply since they want to show respect. And that is indeed a nice gesture of them. They were thaught well in that aspect.
Originally Posted by LH19
I get the sense that you struggle with boundaries so feel free to run your boundaries by the board.
Spot on. I will definitely always ask for help as for me this is not easy indeed. Why does he break the boundary again? (not towards me but towards the children) We clearly agreed to have no contact for a few weeks to give the children some rest.
