Originally Posted by Kml Truthfully? As messed up as he was, that gesture was actually genuine - for both of us women!
You thought it was genuine. He was two timing you, so how genuine was his love for you in reality? The thing you need to understand is that women don’t realize they are being gamed by a player. That is why they fall for him and fall hard. Even though it is obvious to everyone else, the women rewrite reality and make excuses for the guy’s poor behavior trying to justify why he is a good person and loves them genuinely!
I know it sounds like that. And believe me, I would never have him back. To tell the truth, I never fell hard for him. He was fun and it was nice to have the company and attention but I don't know that I was ever "in love" with him. I do feel sorry for him that his life has been ruined by these rapid onset extreme manic episodes that pull the rug out from under him periodically, causing him to lose everything he has been working for. I just happened to know him in an unusually (relatively) stable period in his life. But I don't want anything to do with that whole circus.
