@LH, if one attracts what they put out, you have hard feelings about your ex and you've met few with amicable co-parenting relationships. I co-parent with my ex and so do most I date. Then again, most i date have been D'd a long time.
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@mvg, I'm 11 years post-D. I called my ex yesterday to share the pain of staying up past midnight studying with my D, and the joy of her being happy she got 100% on her test. I hear you our ex's will get more out of an anecdote like that.
Originally Posted by mvg
I am still just as much hated, if not more, as I was during my marriage and since D Day.
How do you feel about her? You're 7.5yrs out--high time to bury any hatcher YOU have! That's the part YOU control in making your relationship amicable. I've written before that it took years for me to bury my hatchet. But, 11yrs out, we're friends and co-parent. If you began burying the hatchet now, perhaps you'll be on good terms for those crucial 16-18y/o years.
Do you have friends who are single parents? I've had friends over for 3 of my last 6 Christmas Eve's. I get you want to share Christmas morning, but that comraderie and sharing the night before and plans for the morning was something. Unlike your ex, they probably can relate to staying up until midnight studying with their kids to help them do well on a test.
I was a primary custody dad, too. I agree with LH, there are more primary custody moms. I think that's why I have more female friends than male ones. Their life journeys align with mine. I met some as the only dad room parenting. I'm working now on making more male friends who can relate to other aspects of life on life's journey of personal growth.
1 FT job and 2 PT jobs and parenting the week. That in itself sounds exhausting!
