My poor niece just had her boyfriend break up with her on the weekend, just a couple days before Valentine's day.
She's the ECMO nurse and is taking it extra hard because of the chronic stress of her job in the last two years. We had all been excited that she seemed to finally be dating a guy worthy of her, and who seemed really into her. They'd been dating for about 9 months. But apparently his M.O. is when he gets overwhelmed and depressed, he responds by jettisoning extra baggage, and he considered her such.
It is another case of, when someone warns you not to date somebody, take them at their word! His brother is a coworker of my niece's, and he had cautioned her against dating him, without being very specific as to why. We (my sister and I) thought maybe he had a crush on my niece himself (the brother is married though). Now it seems apparent he probably knew his brother wasn't a good risk for dating.
One of my niece's problems is, she likes to present herself as easygoing and a "commitment phobe". But the truth is, she's neither of those. She really wants to be in a long term relationship. She's had a history of pursuing unavailable or Love Avoidant guys in the past. Her previous boyfriend cheated on her.
It's so hard to watch because, she is THE BOMB. Gorgeous blonde, fit (she climbed Rainier last year), super smart (a geek's dreamgirl), hilariously funny, makes great bank, caring. Yet she picks the wrong guy every time. (I blame her semi-absentee sociopath father, whom she calls "the sperm donor").
Hoping she segues from the crying on the couch phase into the mad as hell phase soon.
