The rest? Yes, anniversaries of BD hurt, yes your wife was awful to spring it on you when you were sick in bed, yes it's all unfair. The anniversaries get better as time goes on (I usually don't remember my wedding anniversary anymore, last week I forgot it was my ex's birthday). There were multiple BDs and I never noted the dates so it's more just a seasonal feeling, but that's pretty much gone too. I used to keep some old emails from just weeks before the BD to remind me that I wasn't delusional, we did have a loving marriage. But I've long since deleted them too. As you move on it sure gets easier.
