WAW w/Exit Affair or WW? - Divorced Anyway (6)

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Nope nope nope. Don't put it on your ex and don't give your daughter the idea that this is a possibility, because it's very unlikely to happen and she doesn't need to think it can.

Ok, point taken. Not the best response...I admitted as much above. Need to be better prepared next time.

Instead, try to put a positive spin on it. "You have two bedrooms and two blankies" "You have daddy here and Mommy and OM there". Or just factual - mommy already has OM she lives with . (If she does).

I won't promote OM2 as a positive. I haven't talked negatively about him to the kids or anything, but also plan to be honest if asked and won't put an inauthentic/untruthful spin pretending the D and their living w/their mom's AP is a good thing.

bomb day anniversary is always tough . and i know its really tough to answer those questions from a little one.

Thanks. Definitely stirring up some personal feelings but also want to handle the kids' questions in the best way possible.

when you told your D on the spot “that would be nice , but its up to mommy”
is it really up to mommy? if she said “ i want to come back” would you really let her just come back?

its not really up to mommy to come home and i think you know that.

Good point. I couldn't take her back at this point - all the king's horses and all the king's men - so you're right.

i know you were caught off guard.

Yes, indeed. Thanks for the feedback...think I'll be better prepared next time.

i always just validated her feelings but i made sure that i never eluded to is ever living together. validation is the best course of action. no one is right, no one is wrong and never give false hope.

Appreciate the validation reminder. I'll have to remember that approach.

i do promise its gets easier . those comments and questions become less.

Thanks Ginger. I don't doubt it.

All - Lots of focus on my brief response to D3...any thoughts on the rest of my update?