bomb day anniversary is always tough . and i know its really tough to answer those questions from a little one.
when you told your D on the spot “that would be nice , but its up to mommy” is it really up to mommy? if she said “ i want to come back” would you really let her just come back?
i know you might say if she “does this this and this, i might think about letting her come back. however if she doesn't do what you would need, she could ask that question to her mom and she will say “its up to daddy”
its not really up to mommy to come home and i think you know that. i know you were caught off guard. i always just validated her feelings but i made sure that i never eluded to is ever living together. validation is the best course of action. no one is right, no one is wrong and never give false hope.
i do promise its gets easier . those comments and questions become less.
