Husband MLC? need help#2

[AndrewP]

I am so sick of all of this, so sick of hurting, being angry, crying, raging....thinking. I want my easy laid back self back , my life. I did not break my vows, my promises, I did nothing wrong. Adultery should be punishable by law, there should be jail time, and large fines. How anyone can think this is exceptable is beyond me. How anyone can look in the mirror everyday and not see the uglyness in there immoral unethical choices is beyond me. Every state should be a fault state. He should have to pay for the rest of his life for what he has done to our M


Sorry for getting ugly here, just venting, I have got to get the anger off my chest.

One point of view that I think has a lot of merit is that adultury is in fact spousal abuse. You are an abused spouse. You did not agree to the harms that are coming your way, being potentially exposed to STDs (have you been tested?), nor the destruction to your mental or physical health.

PS - I'm on the other side of things financially as I was the breadwinner and still send off that monthly payment. Here there's a thing called "the rule of 65" where if age plus years together are more than 65, the lower income spouse is eligible for spousal support for life. I negotiated a different deal. Also, there's a life insurance policy on me with my xW as the irrevocable beneficiary that I pay for which would cover the amount of support she is due in the off chance that I "pop my clogs" prematurely. 25 payments to go and counting ...