Hi DnJ,
H makes 5 to 6 times more than I made while I was working. So I am hoping that alimony is substancial, as there is no way I will ever come even close to half of what he makes. There was no pre nup, we were both broke when we got married. But together we pushed each other to be successful, he would not be in the position he is in right now without me. He has chosen his path and my life should not be finacially ruined because he is a idiot. Neither of us will be retiring early as planned due to his choices. He will most likely drink himself to a early grave anyway.

Sorry thinking about our finacials makes me really angry. This was built on years of planning and saving. Not to sound full of myself, but he would have never gotten anywhere near all of this if he didn't have me in his corner. I will not walk away from what I worked so hard to build for 21 years. We just got to this spot last December...just in time for him to destroy it.

As far as anything in the house, the only think I want is my new mattress and my fur babies, Archie and Timmy. I don't care about anything else in the house, its just stuff. But he thinks by saying he does not want anything that it should count as assets for me. That would be like saying our clothes are assets, or the dish towels, or the appliances that would be sold with the house. This is all coming from the OW, cuz this is what she is pulling with her H. Just because he does not want it does not make it of value to my asset column.

Spewing-

I am so sick of all of this, so sick of hurting, being angry, crying, raging....thinking. I want my easy laid back self back , my life. I did not break my vows, my promises, I did nothing wrong. Adultery should be punishable by law, there should be jail time, and large fines. How anyone can think this is exceptable is beyond me. How anyone can look in the mirror everyday and not see the uglyness in there immoral unethical choices is beyond me. Every state should be a fault state. He should have to pay for the rest of his life for what he has done to our M


Sorry for getting ugly here, just venting, I have got to get the anger off my chest.