Glutton for punishment

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Ginger1,

2 out of the 3 men i have loved in my life told me they loved me on valentines day. one was my ex who took TWO WHOLE YEARS to say it. and he said his first i love you in the valentines card he gave me. the other also said those words foe the first time in the valentines card he gave me.

You deserve a man who doesn't begrudgingly finally say the L word because it's Valentine's day after 2 years. You deserve a man who wants to woo you, who thinks you're special, and who puts some thought and effort into making you feel special. I hope that comes to you. But I think you, (like I should have done) , need to set a higher bar.

I completely agree w/kml. It shouldn't have to be forced after two years due to a calendar holiday. You deserve better.

anyways i took the kid to the orthodontist. we got pedicures and she was pretty talkative with me today. so it was a good day.

So nice when our kids open up, isn't it? Even though mine are younger I love when they go into the details about something that excited them at school as opposed to "nothing!".

oh and yeah. that last guy ghosted me. had an off feeling about him and of course, my gut is always right

Sorry he ghosted you. That must be frustrating. Completely agree with the gut being right though...so often we can sense these things.

The only person who really made an effort on Valentine's day for me was crazy ex-BF, who snuck into my bedroom in the middle of the night and left the room full of helium balloons. It was a sweet gesture, ruined later by finding out he did the same for the other woman he was seeing on the side at the same time that I didn't know anything about lol.

"Snuck into my bedroom in the middle of the night". They say the difference between romance and stalking is the other person's perspective! Haha

Smooth move though...I'll keep that in mind for the future, though with just one woman not two LOL

It's never JUST the standard stuff - although the balloons, flowers and stuffed animal are pretty standard - but then adds something that shows he really knows what she likes, like in this case the cookies. He'll buy her favorite candies, movies he knows she likes - simple stuff but I'm always impressed that he's thoughtful and giving her what he knows SHE wants.

This is great. I'm not one for doing boiler plate gifts just to get "something" for a forced occasion, but love gifting when I come up with a really unique special idea for a person.