So again, I sincerely apologize to you for giving the impression that it is a hard and fast no, never ever try to R with a cheater. That certainly isn't my stance, I do think it is up to the individual, and to the circumstances (thanks Ginger for showing me that!), and no one is to be looked down upon (not that I ever did) if they decide that a repentant cheater is someone they have decided to R with!
So below is what you wrote on Bent's thread. You didn't give an impression you made a pretty clear statement. You are back tracking now because of the blow back you got. Personally I would respect you more if you held your ground on the subject.
Personally, I don't know how people put up with physical cheating. In my sitch my W had EAs. If any had moved to PAs I could have gladly moved forward with a D and not looked back. I know others feel EAs are worse in some ways, but to me PAs are a dealbreaker.
