Bema, my concern here is that you've already asked. You seem to be holding on to the idea that this 2 day intensive is going to what you have to do. Please consider that there are no magic bullets to these things. I am not suggesting not to call MWD's number and get advice. But I am saying that when your W inevitably says no again, that you back down from this approach. And that you give your situation the time and give your WAW the space that they both need. WASs are like ships, they turn very slowly. They do not change direction on a dime like a motorcycle. Likely your W has taken months, if not years, to get to this point. It will take just as long if not longer for her to decide she wants to reconcile.
We all come here looking for the perfect thing to say or do to get our spouse to change their mind. Truth is, if such a thing existed this forum, MWD's books, everything that is out there about dealing with this wouldn't exist because all LBSs would just say or do that thing and magically fix everything. But if you talk to most of the posters on this board that have R'd with a WAS, it didn't happen over night.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
