Good job. It is a victory. A controlled purposeful step, by you, towards better.
It is wise to do like you are and let the lawyers handle the divorce negotiating leg work. You make the decisions, let your L do the battling.
House, money, investments, and assets. I am guessing no prenuptial agreement, so everything is likely considered material joint properties. In the end, basically 50/50 split.
I suspect with your good career and both of you looking to retire in 5 or so years, there are reasonable nest egg investments. Most likely little to no alimony, maybe. Lawyers will know the rules and expectations of your locale.
If you wish to stay in the house, it appears H is agreeable. His extensive memorabilia collection could pay some / most of your half of the house to him. If he does owe you alimony, forgoing it for the house title could be in your benefit.
Point is, pretty much everything is negotiable. Child support is one of the few rights / payments that cannot be negotiated away. In your situation things are less complicated in that respect.
Make a list of things you need, things you want or like, and things that are not a big deal. Do not tell H.
I’d suspect H’s collection is one of the “no big deal” things. However, that is probably a lot higher on H’s list. With a little finesse and calm you will likely find your needs and most of your reasonable wants can be met.
When I was staring at my pending divorce it was nerve-racking. It’s the absence of information that causes us to stress and fear.
Enjoy your house and yard. The backyard and planted trees, flowers, and bushes sound lovely. A labour of love, one which you can and still will love.
Have a great day.
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
