oh D! i am so sorry yoi are having to deal with this. as a fellow mother to a 14 year old daughter…… holy sh!t i wasn't prepared! its a constant emotional roller coaster. no matter what i say, im always wrong. she tries to act standoffish to me all the time. and then im “mommy” when she needs kr wants something. my kid had a new found love of basketball and i suck because i didnt “force “ her to play sports against her will as a young child!
we are damned if we do, damned if we dont. teenage girls have this incredible talent of making a mountain out if a mole hill.
and if i were to take a guess, she is projecting how she might feel in other places in life, right on to you. because you are mom and a safe place. she may feel this way about someone else in her life, bjt cant safely express it to them. But sje feels safe with uoi.
im sorry. i wish i could give you a huge hug. ive been told around 19 they swing back around !