Husband MLC? need help#2

[bttrfly]

i can only speak for myself Stella. what stopped the tormenting thoughts, even for a brief time, was keeping the focus on today, right now, the moment, minute by minute, second by second if necessary.

we simply don't know what will transpire. that's the sad, but also wonderful, truth. anything else is projection, plain and simple. maybe our spouses do feel remorse. how do they deal with it? does it drive them further away? does it bring them closer? truly, that is THEIR journey, and doesn't help you today. Just for today, focus on breathing, healing and resting. Do something else to occupy your mind. Meditate. there's a site you can google some key words: excel, life, meditations. it's the first thing that will come up. Look for the loving kindness meditation. Try that. If it works for you, do that one at least two or three times a day.

Try sudoku puzzles, or crosswords. Anything to get your monkey mind to stop spinning to what he will or won't do in the future. What their relationship is or is not.

Focus on YOU. What do you need today to feel better physically? Have you had enough rest? Water? What do you need today to nourish your soul? Would that be watching a movie? Listening to music? Painting something? Being in nature?

The more you focus on your needs, in the current moment, the easier this time will be for you.

xoxoxo