What I meant to say was I wanted to do 2 day intensive so I could get clarity on what went wrong with us, so I would have a better chance of not repeating the same mistakes. And to get closure.
What I heard was that you wanted to take the 2-day intensive to save your marriage. You believed your marriage could be fixed and were curious about success rates in that regard. People who know us well often weigh our words less than their model of who we are. I agree you’d feel some closure either way, but if you didn’t state your purpose was keeping you two together and he guessed it, I’d hardly fault him for that.
If you want to take the intensive, I would reach out to MWD for her advise on where his head needs to be at for it to be fruitful and how she usually persuades people to go—or, if she feels people who need to be persuaded aren’t likely to become success stories. Marriage counselor usually requires two committed participants. She may be able to work with less, as in the thread I referenced from here 10yrs ago.
