I am responding to BL42's comments. I do not know how to do the quote thing.
My response:
BL42, are you still married?
Spouse says reason for getting a divorce is I am too controlling. Reality is we do not hear each other. Don't really talk. Afraid of each other in our on ways. Easier not to talk and upset someone. In the short term anyway. I need to talk now and find it challenging. Afraid of spouses reaction.
I asked spouse to participate with me in 2 day Michele intensive. Got a no. Not really surprised as that is often the first response on new things. I also was not sure what was heard when I made my request. I asked for clarification and I was right. What was heard was not what I meant to say. What I meant to say was I wanted to do 2 day intensive so I could get clarity on what went wrong with us, so I would have a better chance of not repeating the same mistakes. And to get closure. Letting this sit a bit to help me find the right words. Afraid of saying the wrong thing.
