The way you patiently put this, like your words are the calm in the storm, for me. The pain they are in, that breaks my heart the most. I know he is in pain, he is struggling and lost. Thats what keeps me holding on, when I know I should not. I want to help him to hold him and get past this. I know that I can not do that, I can not help him, no matter how desperatly I want to.
Yes, H is in pain.
When, not if, when you let go of H, do it with that realization.
Let go the desperate desire to fix. Be not vindictive or punitive. Let go, with compassion and understanding, with a loving approach. Be better not bitter.
Remain patient, this takes time.
You are doing amazing Stella.
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
