I am sorry to say that I feel you were one of the worst DBers I've seen here. I don't mean that as an insult or an attack, but an observation. You completely refused to even entertain the concept of detachment. Instead of conceding to that I tried a tough love approach with you.
That's a pretty aggressive statement to say.
EVERYONE's journey is different and THEIR own. Nothing I did makes me the worst at anything or the best.
This board was more of an emotional journey for myself. I poured every bit of stress, frustration, saddness and joy as it happened. Putting it here was WAY better than throwing it at my WS. Because I was able to have a place to put my emotions whenever I did interact with my H I was able to do so in a manner that did not hurt or was destructive to my situation with him.
I heard everyone who participated in my journey but sometimes I had to get those thoughts and feelings out somewhere... the good and bad days. And, yes, I had a lot of bad days but most people do in the beginning.
The most important thing you could have done for me during those times was not using statements or implying that cheaters are liars and you should never take back a spouse who has done either and its just crazy how I would ever want to do that.
^^^^ Those types of statements were the most damaging.
And, over time you became very judgemental.
My value and belief system is not that much different from yours. I see in your recent posts a new and improved Steve!!!! I see you being more supportive and positive for someone and less throwing your own personal beliefs and opinions into someone else's journey.
