KC, I should have bowed out of your situation much sooner than I did. It was obvious that your values are the polar opposite of mine and that you were not even really ever open to opposing viewpoints. I should have recognized that way earlier than I did. I am sorry to say that I feel you were one of the worst DBers I've seen here. I don't mean that as an insult or an attack, but an observation. You completely refused to even entertain the concept of detachment. Instead of conceding to that I tried a tough love approach with you.

But I do sincerely apologize. I should have stopped giving you advice when you obviously didn't want it. My intentions were pure. My methods were poor. I'm sorry you felt bullied, that was not my intention. I eventually learned to just stay out of your thread and let others try, but I did so way too late. Your situation was probably the one I most broke my own principles in trying to help others here, and as I've stated, I fully intend to do better from here on out. 2x4s worked wonders for me when I came to the forum, but my biggest learning in my attempt to help you was that they don't work for everyone.

I hope you've found some peace in your life. I sincerely mean that.

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018