Maybe this is why guys get so few responses? Because they’re messaging much younger women? Discuss.
I can tell you I have absolutely zero desire to date a 20 something year old and relatively zero desire to date anyone in their 30's. That said I have dated women about 10 years youngers.
So from what I have read is that there are several problems with OLDing:
1. People in general overvalue themselves. The 5s see themselves as 8s so they try to date the 8s who see them as 5s and of course everyone is trying to date the 10s which are limited in supply and know that scarcity creates value. So in a nutshell 100% of the people are trying to date the top 10%. 2. Too many options. In 2000, psychologists Sheena Iyengar and Mark Lepper from Columbia and Stanford University published a study about jams. On a regular day at a local food market, people would find a display table with 24 different kinds of jams. Then on another day, at that same food market, people were given only 6 different types of jam choices. Guess which display table lead to more sales? Exactly. Iyengar and Lepper found was that while the big display table (with 24 jams) generated more interest, people were far less likely to purchase a jar of jam than in the case of the smaller display (about ten times less likely). The study shows that while choice seems appealing, at first sight, choice overload generates the wrong results. 3. Scammer, ghosters, players, catfishers etc. 4. Bad profiles, no game, on the wrong site etc. 5. No patience. It's a grind.
