I didn't end my second EA, the EAP did. I am not on a high horse. I am simply stating that my impulsiveness to confront immediately means I will have to live with never knowing how far she would have went. It doesn't make me better than her. And I apologize Valeska if that was my messaging. IT wasn't my intent, just that I will go to my grave, one way or another, never knowing for sure. I don't deserve better than that. My actions caused all of it, including her EAs. I have been open with the fact that I was a terrible husband. Maybe the worst of any LBS that this board has ever seen.
So if you aren't on a high horse... Why do you struggle over it? What power does having that answer have?
Originally Posted by SteveLW
As far as my mentioning that a PA would be a dealbreaker for me, I don't mention it as often as you characterize it. I try to pick my spots especially for a LBS that is struggling with whether or not they should even bother to try to save their marriage. Sorry if that offends you. Again, there is no intent on my part there.
Thanks for your response, I appreciate your perspective.
I am not offended... but I think you could make the same point w/o bringing up that fact.
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