LH19, it doesn't bring me any joy to be 'spot on'. All of this [censored]. It really does. This experience (that I am still experiencing) has been the most heartbreaking and difficult experience of my life. I'm only passing on the knowledge that others gave to me...here on this forum (just read my thread). And books, and blogs, and other places. The only positive is any suggestion by others on here that I am 'spot on' shows that everyone's advice has finally sunk in for me, and I am on my way towards healing and growing.
Just like me, Eagle will take these suggested steps when she is comfortable and ready.
Eagle, you have to be ready to let go and drop the rope. It's very hard. And it hurts. And I'm sorry if my posts sound harsh too. I know that I felt that way when others pointed out things to me. Truth is, when it hits a nerve, it means that there is something there to dig deeper into. But I'm also very blunt as a person, so if I was too blunt, I apologize.
El
Me 52, H 56 T10 M7, 2nd MR for both 2 Step Sons (19 and 21) BD: Fall 2020 D finalized: July 2022 XH Married AP soon after D day.
