You’ve been in your wife’s shoes before; does that help you to relate? It sounds like it might have gone either way for you, depending on your feelings towards your spouse, your feelings towards AP, when particular circumstances or opportunities arose. Perhaps same for her? If you see a PA as a dealbreaker, it’s interesting to think the continuation of your marriage was sometimes decided by which events coincided—a die roll. Or maybe the confluence of events was fate?
Traveler, I believe in a high power that had a lot to do with. His plan was, for whatever reason, for her and I to not go all the way with the EAs. I do think LH is right that EAs are PAs waiting to happen. But sometimes, eventually, they fade out before getting to that point. The struggle for me is that I interrupted both of hers. Mine fizzled out naturally before the PA stage. Would hers have? Or would they have ended up in a PA? Only that higher power knows!
But yes, I does help me relate. That mine ended without being interrupted is the big differentiator, and why I still sometimes struggle with the "what if" if I hadn't caught her in the EA stage.
Last edited by SteveLW; 02/09/2206:26 PM.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
