I feel I still have a lot to consider for myself and think about. Do I ever actually want more kids? Do I even want to get married again? Where do I want to be in 10 years? Not that I need to completely decide and be final about it, but I need to have my priorities set and a "game plan". I realized this during dating.
Its good to have these things in mind, but there's some saying about God laughing when you make plans. The answers to these questions may depend on who you meet and how you feel about them and their situation.
Originally Posted by Mumin
Initially my mental reflex was “OH, so now you care??!!!” but today it just makes me happy to see she cares. XW’s parents couldn’t even look at each other after their divorce, and still can’t. Initially I wasn’t sure if we might end up like that but now I am glad we are heading in a much better direction.
Good stuff for taking the high road and getting to this place, it is so important, and nothing is more unattractive than the bitter ex.
Originally Posted by Mumin
My change/growth isnt as strong a year ago. Life catches up to you I guess, and I don’t have that “burning platform” anymore.
But recognising is a great step, you can't fix what you don't recognise, so time to find a new motivation to keep improving and stay on top of your game.
Me: 41 W:42 T: 14 M: 11 S: 6
"What happened happened, and couldn't have happened any other way...because it didn't"
