No worries LH, you didn't hit a nerve. I also say what I think and I thought this was harsh, don't seek anything more into it.
I do know why I hate conflict. I know myself quite well. I hate conflict because my parents didn't have a healthy relationship, and still don't although they are still together. In particular my M blames my F for the mistakes he made in the past (not being a present F and H), and she is doing that for years already. My F has changed enormously the past 15 years and has done a lot for us and the grandchildren and she is kind of jealous because we all have a good R with him. She feels he doesn't deserve that for not being there in the past.
My M however was a fantastic M, couldn't have a better one, but unfortunately became a bitter woman with and alcohol problem the past years due to that.
It is what it is and I can't change that, as this is out of my control.
I however have worked on this already a lot but I'm still not there, so yes, I still try to avoid conflicts.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but you are not living with your EXW anymore under one roof I assume?
