Thank you for your opinion on letting go. I fully understand your first sentence. I don't have to show it, I simply have to do it.
I however have my doubts about the second sentence. That I can't show him friendship, kindness and compassion whilst letting go. He might manipulate his form of friendship towards me but I don't have control of that and I won't copy his behavior.
He has not made it clear either if he is going to OW. Perhaps he will open up in the coming days but until now he states he is going on his own to this retreat. I'm well aware of the fact that he could be lying again. But yet again, that is out of my control.
If he is honest about the fact that he goes to OW however, I will then state indeed that I can't be his friend whilst in another R, that this doesn't work for me.
And this is the truth, I can't handle this yet. Is it OK to tell him that?
From my point of view the most important items to let go are:
1/ not to stop caring, it simply means I can’t do it for someone else 2/ not to care for, but to care about 3/ not to fix, but to be supportive 4/ not to judge,but to allow another to be a human being 5/ not to be protective, but to permit another to face reality 6/ to fear less and love more
Beautiful words but unfortunately not always easy to apply this in real life...although I believe that is what I've been trying to do the past year already as much as possible.
I may be wrong so any input is welcome because I really struggle with this. To the people who know my story a bit, how would you handle the letting go part, or how did you handle this in the past? Thank you
