In short I have been living a really good life, sure covid [censored] but I have managed real well in 2021. Excelling at work, excelling in the gym (235 workouts last year), dated/talked to a few women (one exclusive for a few months), building some stuff at home and really spending quality time with the kids every other week.
Excellent!
Originally Posted by Mumin
So yeah, I dated a girl and it was actually great. Though I ended it because I didn’t really feel that strong of a connection and she was sort of in a hurry. Hurry to define our R, hurry to talk about kids etc Which I am definitely not.
I just had the same thing happened to me. It just means she's not the one.
Originally Posted by Mumin
She did say I was the best she ever had and wished me well, so we ended on good terms.
You dawg you!
Originally Posted by Mumin
I feel I still have a lot to consider for myself and think about. Do I ever actually want more kids? Do I even want to get married again? Where do I want to be in 10 years? Not that I need to completely decide and be final about it, but I need to have my priorities set and a "game plan". I realized this during dating.
Not decisions that need to be made anytime soon.
Originally Posted by Mumin
I am +99% certain I saw XW on tinder, though (to my knowledge) OM is still very much in the picture.
Your Ex is the all time monkey brancher!
Originally Posted by Mumin
She used the word “slut” to describe herself…
Spit my coffee
Originally Posted by Mumin
I set a few goals for the year and one is to COMPLETLEY let her go. I mostly have but as with any long-term love I can’t just forget about her. It's always been that way for me with GFs. I know, most of you might say “STILL??!”. But yeah, some unconscious part of me misses her and what we had from time to time.
Dude it's ok. I don't miss my ex per se but I sometimes miss the family we had. Nothing wrong with that.
Originally Posted by Mumin
The most notable situation for me was when I picked up the kids to celebrate Christmas with my family and they started telling me about how they celebrated Christmas day with OM and his family. I wasn’t aware they were going to do that and that really hit me hard. Not a great way to start a 5 hour drive.
Those things are tough and will be for awhile. Maybe always.
Originally Posted by Mumin
My change/growth isnt as strong a year ago. Life catches up to you I guess, and I don’t have that “burning platform” anymore.
It goes in spurts. After awhile you get burnt out and need to take a break and then you start up again.
