I just want to caution you about putting too much emphasis on the reasons for your H’s departure. Is it MLC? Possibly. Is it that he fell in love with someone else? He thinks so. Could he change his mind? Absolutely? Will he? No one knows. The past at is irrelevant. It only exists in your mind. You are thinking about it and reflecting on it regularly so when you see him, you are filled with sadness and disbelief how he could walk away from so much shared history. Your H’s experience is not the same. He has rewritten your history and focused only on the negative. His walks down memory lane, if he even takes them, are different from yours. They don’t make him want to see you more, they make him want to see you less.
This is a long, long, long road my friend. Reconciliation is possible but sadly, for most people who find their way here, it is not in the cards. I think sometimes we fail to understand just how determined our WAS’ are to start a new life. They didn’t just walk out the door on a whim or by accident. It’s not like there was a big conflict and in the heat of the moment, they decided they were leaving. That kind of situation is different than when someone pretends everything is fine and carries on another life somewhere else with someone else while simultaneously planning their exit.
So please think about this Stella. If you want a chance of ever having marriage 2.0, you have to let him go and start living your life as if he is never coming back. You’ve been through a really traumatic event. Focus on healing and setting yourself up for a good future regardless of what he decides to do. (((HUGS)))
