DejaVu I am trying, but just started last Friday night after he told me he "just needed some peace and quiet" I have cut my texting and calling him. Its getting easy, I used to feel like I HAD to contact him and I HAD to talk to him. So far this week I have done good with that except for texting him on wednesday, abourt surgery and taxes. Making a spa appointment for after my surgery, ahhh I look forward to that.
kml 118 pounds..omg thats too skinny..and yes, I think about what it would look like for him to fix this, but it has to come from him, I can not tell him what he needs to do. What if he ask me what he needs to do??? How do I answer that question???? Awe god I just thought that as I typed... Hope he doesn't ask me. Over the 6 months before he moved out I did everything, books that I would ask him to read (he read 2) IC for both of use, videos, articles I would send him. At this point I have done everything and said everything I could possible say. You would think at this point I would be done talking...
bttyfly I have ordered the book just waiting on it. My IC also recommended Alanon. I did sit in on one online meeting. Guess I should order that book too. Not sure I got much out of it, might be better in person. My IC told me to try online 1sth, so I could remain anonymos, but I really dont care who knows. Everyone already knows H is a drunk.
I want to let you all know how greatful I am to have found you all. I know that this journey has just started, (8 months since the first BD 2 months since he left) but everyones words are helpful and it has been very therapeutic for me to beable to get it all out hear and off my chest. My friends and family have all been great, but none of them have had to deal with anything like this before, and I would imagine it gets old to listen to my pain. Just knowing everyone is out there, thank you for being such great people!!!
